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One of my friends died today. He was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer two weeks ago. Over the past few years, he’d switched from practicing law to working on his dream: writing a book. …

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“What’s the difference between therapy and coaching?”

It’s the first question someone asks when they find out I did therapy for years before I switched to coaching founders, creators, and entrepreneurs.

It’s a simple question, but if you Google it, you’ll get 24,200,000 search results-and virtually every single one of…

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Work used to mean long commutes, endless meetings, miles of bureaucratic red tape and paperwork, lunch hours filled with mind-numbing small talk, then shambling through the door at the end of the workday utterly drained.

Then I got an email from the COO of my last job: In 30 days…

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It’s 3 am on a weeknight. A loud *crash* wakes me up. A man is yelling angrily as a woman screams in terror and pain. A whiff of alcohol hangs in the air.

My mom’s boyfriend had just thrown her down the single step separating the bedroom from the living…

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I grew up up a holler — or hollow, as non-country folk call it. We call it a holler because the hills have good acoustics, so if you’re on one hill and need to talk to your neighbor on their hill, you yell — or holler — to communicate.


How to wire your brain for peak performance. Picture of a man punching through a stone block.
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The other day, after a hard BJJ training session, I was talking with one of my friends who’s an MMA fighter. He’d lost a recent fight and was looking for strategies to achieve peak performance next time.

“When I was younger, I trained MMA to learn to control my anger…

“You will either step forward into growth, or you will step backward into safety.”— Abraham Maslow

Imagine: You’ve got a high-profile job. You make good money. Your coworkers respect you. You’ve won all the accolades for doing your job well. You go home to a loving partner and happy healthy…

Lessons from Jocko Willink’s Good Philosophy

When things are going bad, there is going to be some good that’s going to come from it.

Didn’t get promoted? Good. More time to get better. Got beat? Good. You learned.

Unexpected problems? Good. We have the opportunity to figure out a…

“You’re closer to 40 than 20 now.”

That’s how my girlfriend jokingly celebrated me turning 31. But she was right. Where had my 20’s gone? Why wasn’t I as far in life as 15-year-old me thought I would be by this point? Had I wrought irrevocable damage to myself because…

How to quit sugar using a strategy from modern psychology

I grew up in Appalachia — the land of Mountain Dew Mouth — where our teeth rot and our waists expand, thanks to our overindulgence in processed sugar.

If you couldn’t chew your sweet tea, it didn’t have enough sugar…

Corey Wilks, Psy.D.

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